Stressing that partners must be alike in their choices and habits to be together and on the same page, actor Neha Dhupia reflected on her relationship with her husband, Angad Bedi. “Genuine friendships are very few. One of them I got married to. And I think that’s a great choice both ways. I don’t understand the system where opposites attract. Angad and I have everything in common, whether film industry, fitness, language, or food choices. We have everything in common. Choices in terms of what to watch. Imagine if opposites attract…tumhe rajma khaana hai…mujhe momos khaane hai…kaise hoga? Woh chalta hi nahi hai…hamari life me toh woh sab chalta hi nahi hai (You want to eat rajma, I want momos…how will it work out? I don’t think it works for us at all),” she told Bollywood Bubble in a podcast.. According to the Chup Chup Ke actor, a relationship means “love, friendship, companionship, understanding, humour, fights, resolving fights, being there, making time, prioritising, respect, and keeping expectations real”.. On keeping expectations real, Neha, who got married to Angad in 2018, said, “I don’t remember him giving me flowers ever. But the number of people who gave me flowers…I didn’t get married to them. I got married to the one who never gave me flowers. These are all unreal expectations. Life is not a Hallmark card. You have to keep it very real. He and I are very different but very similar. There are a lot of differences. I can multitask. He will do one thing, but he will do it properly. I can micromanage, but he manages different kinds of things. It has taken time….it’s taken eight years…Professionally, yes, but domestically too, we have understood whose skill set is better in what…”. Taking a cue from her candid confession, we understand what it means for relationships when partners are similar rather than opposites.. Here’s what you should consider (Photo: Freepik). The popular idea that opposites attract sounds romantic, but in real, lived relationships, it often collapses under the weight of daily life, agreed Delnna Rrajesh, psychotherapist and life coach. “What sustains a partnership is not dramatic contrast but quiet compatibility. Shared rhythms, similar values, aligned lifestyles, and emotional understanding matter far more than novelty or polarity,” said Delnna.. Long-term relationships are not built in moments of excitement. “They are built-in routines. At what time you sleep, eat, how you unwind, how you argue, or how you repair after conflict. When two people share overlapping internal clocks and similar life preferences, life flows with far less friction. This does not mean they are identical. It means they are aligned where it counts.”. According to Delnna, there is a deep “misunderstanding about compatibility”. “Many confuse it with sameness. Compatibility is not about doing everything the same way. It is about respecting differences without feeling threatened by them.
